how much debt do you have?

I tried answering this through the poll, but it didn't work. 

None, the only time that I've been in debt was when I had a student loan. I paid it off in 2008 and have been debt free ever since. 

That being said, I'm making an excel sheet with my spending habits through 2011 and it seems I spend more then I earn, yet still manage to save up. I'm confused now.

Letter to my coworker

*note: this is a public post, feel free to share with the world as you please*

Dear coworker,

I started this job four months ago and the first time we met, you glanced at me and made a joke about how you ' never seen a policy employee like you' . You inserted a *wink wink, nudge nudge*  at the end. I ignored your behavior, because I believe negative behavior should not be encouraged by paying attention to it. I am aware of the fact that I'm a thirty year old attractive woman but so far this has not been a big deal in my previous jobs.

After working at this IT department for four months, I have tallied the results of sexual harassment and/or insulting comments. Ranging from fairly harmless ' I'm glad I have a meeting with a pretty girl instead of an old guy for a change' to right out obnoxious 'I am married, but I could take my ring off and we could go for a drink'. I usually shrug it off, blame it on the lack of communication skills of the man in question and move on. I have a sense of humor and sometimes (though rarely) these comments are funny and lighthearted. For your information, I receive one to three comments on the subject per week. 

However, of all the people in my department, you continue to make such comments every time we meet. Every.Single.Time. You are long past the point where this is even mildly amusing. It makes me feel uncomfortable, but often these moments and comments come and go so quickly that I fail to respond in time. I wonder how many men have to deal with snarky comments on the work floor hinting at the fact that they are (OMG!) male and attractive. 

Yesterday we had a meeting with our unit, a meeting that I prepared by sending people material on forehand and making an agenda. You waltzed in the door, put a pile of hand-outs on the table and commented ' well, this is what we're going to talk about' . Despite a comment from another coworker, who mentioned that I was the one who prepared the meeting, you waved him away by saying that your method was far superior in explaining the subject at hand.

We then spent the whole meeting on combining my work with the schematics you provided and it resulted int he conclusieon that what I was doing was a sound method. In hindsight, I should have slammed my hand on the table and tell you to let me handle the meeting. However, I was a bit taken back by your reply to my coworker who mentioned that he read my piece, with a comment along the lines of ' well, I'd like a piece of her too!'.

Your behavior is unprofessional and personally insulting. Why is a 38 year old highly educated man acting like a 14 year old teenager in a situation where he is supposed to act as a professional? I am a real person with real feelings and I deserve to be treated with equal respect as our male coworkers. If the fact that I have boobs throws you off your game, you might consider getting a pair yourself and be done with it.

I demand a professional attitude and will reprimand you every time you cross that boundary. If this fails, I will personally cut off your balls and stuff them down your throat the next time you make an innuendo.

Thank you for your time,

Me