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mekyria ([personal profile] mekyria) wrote2014-12-17 12:04 pm
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There is no heartbeat

We arrived early at the obgyn's office for our ten week chek up. The same blond haired woman welcomed us in as the last time and I took my place on the bench. She squirted some gel on my belly and started the ultrasound. That was when we noticed that there was no heartbeat. The embryo itself looked perfect, developed into 9 weeks and 3 days. But there was no heartbeat and counting back, the heart must have stopped about eight days ago.

E. And I are both devestated and we took a couple of days off so we can be together and mourn. Also, somewhere in the next two weeks my body will expell the embryo and the uterus lining. It will be something inbetween menstruating and giving birth, meaning lots of bloodloss and cramps. I am going to the pharmacy today to prepare myself with special pads and such. My mother told me I really need those: she had a miscarriage in her thirteenth week, roughly 40 years ago.

So sad.

[identity profile] suzycat.livejournal.com 2014-12-17 11:34 am (UTC)(link)
Oh no. I am so sorry for your loss.

[identity profile] misspotsitt.livejournal.com 2014-12-17 11:43 am (UTC)(link)
I am sorry to hear this. Are you able to stay off work during the bleed? It would make it easier to cope with.

[identity profile] khalidad.livejournal.com 2014-12-17 12:32 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry. Big big hugs to you both.

[identity profile] bedlam-n-bedlah.livejournal.com 2014-12-17 02:09 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry, honey. My friend had the same thing happen to her at about 10 weeks. She was able to get a procedure so she didn't have to expel the fetus naturally. Would it help you with your grieving process the check on that? It might make it easier for you. Hugs, I'll be thinking of you.

[identity profile] mekyria.livejournal.com 2014-12-18 09:11 am (UTC)(link)
I am considering the procedure, but I needed some time to process the news. The obgyn is calling me every couple of days and ensured me that I coul call and arrange for the procedure any time. I am going to give it a couple more days but I hope that this will be over before new year.

[identity profile] bedlam-n-bedlah.livejournal.com 2014-12-20 06:12 pm (UTC)(link)
Hang in there. I'll be thinking about you. (((HUGS)))

[identity profile] evil-spice.livejournal.com 2014-12-17 02:22 pm (UTC)(link)
So, so sorry that this has happened. Much love to you both.

[identity profile] abbie-normel.livejournal.com 2014-12-17 03:24 pm (UTC)(link)
I am so so sorry.

[identity profile] replyhazy.livejournal.com 2014-12-17 04:23 pm (UTC)(link)
Very sorry to hear this. ((hugs))

[identity profile] tupelo.livejournal.com 2014-12-18 01:06 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry.

[identity profile] aleksie.livejournal.com 2014-12-18 03:24 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry.

[identity profile] parasitegirl.livejournal.com 2014-12-19 09:19 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry for your loss.